No. 1 Dear Crystal – Wondering if Bigger Is Better
Dear Crystal,
I’ve been following you for almost 10 years now and just love seeing snippets on your life on Instagram. Your taste in decor never fails to amaze me. I was wondering if you had any advice for someone that already has a home but can’t help but want something bigger and better knowing I may not get that. What’s your philosophy when it comes to your home?
Yours,
Wondering if Bigger is Better
Dear Wondering if Bigger is Better,
I think the best place for us to start is to reflect on what your home is. In what sacred way does your home support you? For me, home is my safe place to land. It's where our family gathers to share laughter, meals, and everyday moments that become cherished memories. It's the place where I feel most free to be me. None of these things depend on how big or small my house is.
Because my home is kind to me, in turn, I want to be kind to my home. This means I do my best to enhance its features, even if I have to look hard to find beauty in them. As the steward of my home, thinking about how I can make each room the truest, most beautiful version of itself is my creative mission and daily practice. Sometimes that involves a mini transformation with a handyman, and sometimes it simply means placing pretty flowers on a table for an instant pick-me-up. None of these things depend on how big or small my house is.
When I find myself going down the wanting-more road, I know gratitude is my most powerful antidote. I'm curious if you could make a list of ten things you appreciate about your home. When we experience gratitude, we can't simultaneously embody feelings of lack. Try to feel both at once, and you'll find it's not possible. Instead, when practicing being grateful for what is, you'll likely find the love for your home growing in your heart.
While gratitude grounds us in the present, it's also natural to dream of future possibilities. Hold space for hope – for a home that may one day align even more perfectly with the life you deserve. But let that hope be gentle, something that brightens your spirit rather than diminishes your present joy. When we orient our hearts toward gratitude and possibility together, we invite beauty to flourish wherever we are.
Yours,
Crystal